The Persistent Irritation

Jun 09, 2026 8:33 am

It was a sultry, unusual, humid day of June, and I was working relentlessly for hours, managing my clients, coaching one session after the other, then, within gaps would slip into the kitchen for household chores, and when done with that, attend to my ailing father, who was bedridden for years.


Amidst the non-stop work, there was hardly any time for rest or leisure; the only rest was when the night covered the day, and it was time to retire to bed.

Sleep came, but it did not provide the rest I was looking for


It was a phase of life when I was overburdened with responsibilities, very few of which were real, and many of which were created by a combination of my methodical and anxious mind.


During a group call catching up with old friends, some of whom were also colleagues, I find myself feeling more lonely than I was in real life, and when one of my friends cracked a joke, I quickly snapped, which tensed the air, and I was back in my overthinking mode, feeling sorry and guilty for him and a lot for my own poor self!


I was drowning in self-pity and often question myself - Where do I belong?

A question that kept cropping up at different points in my life, seeking an answer, and after a long quest of exploring various methods, was eventually found in deep inner work.

If I'm meeting you right now in such a similar search, I want to let you know you are not alone.


Protection & Emotions

Irritation and anger are often self-protective responses to our complex emotions.

So, when we find ourselves in an irritable mood and the world around us seems hostile, we pull up our guard to protect ourselves, which makes us snappier, and the cycle continues.


The Cycle

Triggered by self-pity -----> Snap at people -----> within a fraction of seconds -----> feeling guilty ----->now ---- overanalyse what could be the reason -----> feel more irritable and snap more.


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A few deep breaths, a good night's sleep or a pleasant time spent with family or friends can always help to dissipate the irritability and lift our mood

However, it is a temporary surface-level work, and within a few days or a week, you may find yourself back in the same pattern as described in the above picture.

Root-level work on our inner self is more effective in bringing about a transformation in mindset, behaviours, and attitudes, changing things at the root core level and for the better.


If you are wondering if this kind of change is possible and such depth work available to you.


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Warmly,

Mehnaz Amjad

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